Dealing With Weight Gain

I feel like it’s very common for women (especially) to want to bulk but they don’t want to gain any fat. They want to build muscle, they want to grow, but they’re scared about gaining weight in their stomach or their arms or their thighs- the reality is… if you’re going to bulk, you are going to gain fat, it’s just how it goes. You’re not going to gain 100% muscle mass, it’s simply not possible ,BUT that’s not a bad thing. I know that it’s hard to see yourself change (trust me lol) but in my experience, the best thing I did for myself was focus on the positives instead of picking myself apart.

I have always been one to have abs. Ever since I was in high school it’s just how I’ve always looked. I was always very skinny with pretty much a 4-6 pack at all times, it’s something I’ve always liked on my body, it’s something I was used to seeing. But when I started eating 3200-3600 calories a day....they went away. I was sitting at a higher body fat percentage than I ever have been in my entire life and guess what.. I WAS STILL HEALTHY! It was hard to see my body change in a way that I had never experienced before BUT it wasn’t a “bad look”! Over the years I had engrained in my mind that “abs = healthy” that “abs = athleticism” but as we all know that has nothing to do with overall health! Yes I started gaining weight in different parts of my body, but I was also stronger than I ever had been, I was putting on an insane amount of muscle mass and I was building curves for myself that I never had before. Gaining weight is difficult I wont lie, but adjusting that mindset is going to help you more than you think- we are our own worst critics so of course we are going to nit pick at ourselves day in and day out. Take a breath, take a step back and change your perspective!